When my kids first started school I told the staff, “If my kids ever step a toe out of line, please don’t discipline them. Let me know and I’ll deal with them.”
There were 2 reasons for this:
- My kids’ behaviour is my responsibility.
- No one’s going to discipline as effectively as I am.
Not only did my kids never step a toe out of line, but I continually got letters from teachers and principals and coaches about how well behaved and pleasant my children were to be around.
So, why should schools not be disciplining kids? Because it’s not their job!!! Or at least it shouldn’t be. Kids should turn up at school polite and respectful toward others. Manners, respect and consideration are all up to parents to teach, not the schools.
One of my most controversial newspaper articles was, “Stop Expecting Schools to Parent”.
I wrote that article back in 2014 and I’m seeing a shift now in 2017. Parents are much more willing to agree that we have to stop coddling our kids and start teaching them about accountability.
You have to meet their needs and manage their wants. You need to prepare them for the real world. The real world doesn’t have any interested in self-entitled people.
I used to love watching a show called Bridezillas. All these revolting brides throw fits, whining and making everyone around them miserable. It was only funny because they were adults so I had zero sympathy for them. But when I see kids acting like that I feel so sorry for them. It’s not their fault, they’ve been trained to act like that by their parents.
It’s time we all start taking pride in our role as parents. We need to raise children who have self-respect, respect for others and are just plain nice human beings.
If your kids are acting out, take a look in a mirror instead of blaming them or others. It’s all up to you, you have total control.
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach