The quickest, most effective way to increase your child’s self-esteem?
P R I D E
If you find what your child is proud of and encourage that, it will help them navigate through life with higher self-esteem and self-confidence. Those qualities will make them bully proof and also make them strive for greater things in life.
Children are not necessarily proud of things they’re good at. You may have a son who’s brilliant at math but what he’s really proud of is his ability to make people laugh (that was my son).
I worked with teens who had very little to be proud of yet when I found something that I could see they were proud of, that instantly become my #1. Once they were given permission to not be good in academics, but to be great at drawing or whatever, everything else fell into place. Their grades improved right along with their self-esteem.
Pride is a funny thing. Sometimes you have to work to encourage and nurture it in your children. Don’t focus on what’s important to you, but rather what’s important to them. It may be the same thing, but maybe not.
All the other stuff like school, chores, etc. are important too, but they’re not everything.
Think about this, what is your child proud of, and are you complimenting and encouraging them with this?
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach
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