If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

finger in faceBad News:   If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

Good News:   If your Child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

How your children act is a direct result of your parenting. That’s great news as it means that if they are rotten brats today you have the power to turn that around.

When coaching I often tell parents that the only other relationship that’s even close to parenting is a sports coach. A great coach explains the rules of the game, enforces the rules, and bonds with and encourages the kids.

Could you imagine a child arguing the rules of baseball?!:

I don’t wanna run around all the bases, I just

wanna run to 1st base then back home for a home run!!!!

Waaaaaaaa … !!!!”

Would a coach allow that? Of course not. Yet why on earth would you allow your children to argue bedtime, mealtime, manners?!

Kids who don’t respect their parents often respect other adults. Most of my clients say their children are great with the teacher and other adults, just horrible with them. That’s great news as it means they’re not really rotten, they just need leadership.

Children who don’t respect their parents don’t have self-respect. 

I don’t really believe that children are capable of being rotten brats. They’re just reacting to the lack of leadership in their lives. The reason I know this is that I was never asked to work with angels, I specialized in troubled kids/teens and never had a problem with any one of them. Sure, some took longer to come around, but they all did eventually.

All kids respond beautifully to strong leadership, love and boundaries.

So if you’re struggling with parenting now, please don’t put up with it any longer. I don’t want that for you OR your kids.  I have a free “3 Step Parenting Plan” included in my newsletters which outlines how to get started with discipline.  Just sign up at the top right of this page.  It’s simple and easy to use.  

Sign up to my Newsletter (above right) to get your FREE “3 Step Parenting Plan”.  I use this with all of my clients as a visual tool to get organized with discipline, rules, etc.

Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach

How to get your husband to back you up with the kids

men fix thingsMen are fixers so …

when they can’t fix something, they get frustrated and sometimes even check out emotionally.

A common theme among couples I coach is the mom is frustrated with the dad not helping, not supporting, not even seeming to care at times. I explain that men are fixers and when they don’t know how to fix something, they sometimes check out. But when I give them the tools, they get right on board and start to “fix” things. The dads will be nodding in agreement.

Men are as likely to fix a leaky faucet without the correct tools as they are to discipline the kids without effective methods that get results.

Next “4 Week Parenting Plan” starts May 5th.

Thank you Lisa for all your kind words of support through our struggles with parenting.  We have learned how to be consistent and support one another now that we know what to do.  Mae … BC Interior

Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach
Phone: 604-944-7479
BratBusters Parenting
Vancouver, BC