Good News: If your Child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault
How your children act is a direct result of your parenting. That’s great news as it means that if they are rotten brats today you have the power to turn that around.
When coaching I often tell parents that the only other relationship that’s even close to parenting is a sports coach. A great coach explains the rules of the game, enforces the rules, and bonds with and encourages the kids.
Could you imagine a child arguing the rules of baseball?!:
“I don’t wanna run around all the bases, I just
wanna run to 1st base then back home for a home run!!!!
Waaaaaaaa … !!!!”
Would a coach allow that? Of course not. Yet why on earth would you allow your children to argue bedtime, mealtime, manners?!
Kids who don’t respect their parents often respect other adults. Most of my clients say their children are great with the teacher and other adults, just horrible with them. That’s great news as it means they’re not really rotten, they just need leadership.
Children who don’t respect their parents don’t have self-respect.
I don’t really believe that children are capable of being rotten brats. They’re just reacting to the lack of leadership in their lives. The reason I know this is that I was never asked to work with angels, I specialized in troubled kids/teens and never had a problem with any one of them. Sure, some took longer to come around, but they all did eventually.
All kids respond beautifully to strong leadership, love and boundaries.
So if you’re struggling with parenting now, please don’t put up with it any longer. I don’t want that for you OR your kids. I have a free “3 Step Parenting Plan” included in my newsletters which outlines how to get started with discipline. Just sign up at the top right of this page. It’s simple and easy to use.
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Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach