I read an article about parents who were suing the school over their traumatized 7 year old. She was the only one of her friends with a packed lunch from home, the rest had money for cafeteria food. She threw a fit because the cafeteria wouldn’t give her a free lunch.
The parents accused the school of who knows what and they were threatening to take them to court. The mother was actually crying at how upset her daughter was that she was the only one with a packed lunch. If my kids had thrown a fit like that they’d be apologizing to the staff and clearing tables the next day at lunch!
Those parents have what I call “Self-Entitled Parent Syndrome”. It’s when parents expect their children to get special treatment.
I’ve been to hundreds of kids’ concerts, games, etc. and there’s often one parent there with “Self-Entitled Parent Syndrome”‘. They’re consoling their child over not getting the best position, the starring role, etc. Some even complain to the adults running the event.
The only time my kids ever complained to be about something not being fair was by son in Grade 9. He told me his teacher was marking him down as she just didn’t like him. Her son was in the same class and my son was a better student so that may have had something to do with it, I don’t know.
My son and his friend decided to test the teacher and copied each other’s answers on a test. His friend got an A, my son a C. I could’ve gone to the principal with that but decided to be nice and just popped in on the teacher instead. When she saw my son and I coming she actually looked scared, lol. I never accused her of anything, was really nice and said I was just concerned over my son’s “low performance” in her class. Never had a problem with her after that.
So of course I believe in standing up for your children, but only when necessary. I was proud of my son for asking for my help as what 14 year old boy wants his mommy going to school to defend him?
If I ever complained to my Mom about life not being fair she’d tell me about how she grew up in the Great Depression with a can of spaghetti between 4 of them for dinner, on a good day. How the school gave her cream to fatten her up as she was so skinny. Nope, no point complaining to her about anything, lol.
Children need to learn that life isn’t fair. Sometimes you’re going to get the short straw in life. The earlier you teach this to your children the better. They’ll be happier, stronger and grateful that you didn’t have “Self-Entitled Parent Syndrome”.
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach