If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

by LisaBunnage on July 3, 2015

finger in faceBad News: If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

Good News: If your Child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

How your children act is a direct result of your parenting. That’s great news as it means that if they are rotten brats today you have the power to turn that around.

When coaching I often tell parents that the only other relationship that’s even close to parenting is a sports coach. A great coach explains the rules of the game, enforces the rules, and bonds with and encourages the kids.

Could you imagine a child arguing the rules of baseball?!:

I don’t wanna run around all the bases, I just

wanna run to 1st base then back home for a home run!!!!

Waaaaaaaa … !!!!”

Would a coach allow that? Of course not. Yet why on earth would you allow your children to argue bedtime, mealtime, manners?!

Kids who don’t respect their parents often respect other adults. Most of my clients say their children are great with the teacher and other adults, just horrible with them. That’s great news as it means they’re not really rotten, they just need leadership.

Children who don’t respect their parents don’t have self-respect. I guess there are exceptions to that but I’m 54 now and I’ve never actually seen that phenomenon occur.

I don’t really believe that children are capable of being rotten brats. They’re just reacting to the lack of leadership in their lives. The reason I know this is that I was never asked to work with angels, I specialized in troubled kids/teens and never had a problem with any one of them. Sure, some took longer to come around, but they all did eventually.

All kids respond beautifully to strong leadership, love and boundaries.

So if you’re struggling with now, please don’t put up with it any longer. I don’t want that for you OR your kids.

Parenting should be Fun, not a Struggle.

You may have already seen my 3 Step Parenting Plan, which I recently updated. Or you may have never heard of it. Either way, please check it out below, just click on the Green Box. It’s all free and is the tool I used with every one of my clients.

Get the Respect you Deserve

If you want my personal help through this process, check out my coaching programs (Toddler or Child/Tween) or coaching sessions.

Now get to work and get the Respect you Deserve. C’mon … you can do it :).

Lisa.

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Jerry Bures July 4, 2015 at 2:30 am

Lisa, thanks for confirming what I’ve noticed with parenting for years. Yet, too many want to dismiss their responsibility for the behavioral outcomes in their kids. Blaming it on this and that…everything except their lack of leadership and setting a good example.

At times, it can be a tough pill to swallow. We learned the hard way with child #1.

“They’re just reacting to the lack of leadership in their lives.” Couldn’t have said it better myself. And I agree, without exception, when you do lead, they respond with self-control and respect, as evidenced by our next five! (sigh…:)

And even better news…you don’t need to lead ‘perfectly’. Just often enough, and with a consistent message. Again…great post!

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LisaBunnage July 4, 2015 at 7:38 am

Jerry,

6 kids … you deserve a medal!!!

Great point about not having to be perfect … I sure wasn’t and my kids still respected me and boy did we have fun.

Raising kids was the most fun I’ve ever had in my life. No one tells you how much fun it is. But you have to get the respect in place first or else it’s no fun at all.

Lisa.

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