If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

finger in faceBad News:   If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

Good News:   If your Child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault

How your children act is a direct result of your parenting. That’s great news as it means that if they are rotten brats today you have the power to turn that around.

When coaching I often tell parents that the only other relationship that’s even close to parenting is a sports coach. A great coach explains the rules of the game, enforces the rules, and bonds with and encourages the kids.

Could you imagine a child arguing the rules of baseball?!:

I don’t wanna run around all the bases, I just

wanna run to 1st base then back home for a home run!!!!

Waaaaaaaa … !!!!”

Would a coach allow that? Of course not. Yet why on earth would you allow your children to argue bedtime, mealtime, manners?!

Kids who don’t respect their parents often respect other adults. Most of my clients say their children are great with the teacher and other adults, just horrible with them. That’s great news as it means they’re not really rotten, they just need leadership.

Children who don’t respect their parents don’t have self-respect. 

I don’t really believe that children are capable of being rotten brats. They’re just reacting to the lack of leadership in their lives. The reason I know this is that I was never asked to work with angels, I specialized in troubled kids/teens and never had a problem with any one of them. Sure, some took longer to come around, but they all did eventually.

All kids respond beautifully to strong leadership, love and boundaries.

So if you’re struggling with parenting now, please don’t put up with it any longer. I don’t want that for you OR your kids.  I have a free “3 Step Parenting Plan” included in my newsletters which outlines how to get started with discipline.  Just sign up at the top right of this page.  It’s simple and easy to use.  

Sign up to my Newsletter (above right) to get your FREE “3 Step Parenting Plan”.  I use this with all of my clients as a visual tool to get organized with discipline, rules, etc.

Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach

2 thoughts on “If your child is a Rotten Brat, it’s all your Fault”

  1. Lisa, thanks for confirming what I’ve noticed with parenting for years. Yet, too many want to dismiss their responsibility for the behavioral outcomes in their kids. Blaming it on this and that…everything except their lack of leadership and setting a good example.

    At times, it can be a tough pill to swallow. We learned the hard way with child #1.

    “They’re just reacting to the lack of leadership in their lives.” Couldn’t have said it better myself. And I agree, without exception, when you do lead, they respond with self-control and respect, as evidenced by our next five! (sigh…:)

    And even better news…you don’t need to lead ‘perfectly’. Just often enough, and with a consistent message. Again…great post!

    1. Jerry,

      6 kids … you deserve a medal!!!

      Great point about not having to be perfect … I sure wasn’t and my kids still respected me and boy did we have fun.

      Raising kids was the most fun I’ve ever had in my life. No one tells you how much fun it is. But you have to get the respect in place first or else it’s no fun at all.

      Lisa.

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