A growing body of evidence suggests grades don’t predict success — C+ students are the ones who end up running the world. Sarah Scott
Quote is from a great article by Macleans: “Do Grades Really Matter?”
Grades have become the yardstick by which children are often judged. I mentored tons of struggling students and always told them it’s usually the worst students who end up running the world. Not true but they loved hearing that I wasn’t obsessed with grades, took the pressure off and made them feel better about themselves.
I’m extremely opinionated on this subject and my opinions are often unpopular. Pushing children academically is wrong. I’ve known too many “gifted” children who turned into self-destructive teenagers. It’s just not healthy to focus too much on academics. Where’s the joy and happiness in life? Where’s the fun? Here’s a story of a mom trying to bully me over this.
Here were my priorities when raising my kids:
- Healthy & Fit
- Happy & Confident
- Polite & Nice
- Doing their best
If you look after the first 4, the 5th takes care of itself. If kids are struggling at school then hire a tutor or ask the staff if there are free teacher sessions available.
If you are a confident leader for your children to look up to they will naturally want to do their best to make you proud. If they don’t respect you, they don’t respect themselves, or school or anything.
Discipline and education go hand-in-hand. Kids who aren’t disciplined at home are sure going to struggle more at school.
I can’t remember ever having a conversation about homework with my kids, and I know I never helped them. Their homework was just done after dinner then we’d all have fun doing something. It was just one of the disciplines in their lives. I was proud of their grades but all I fussed over was their good behaviour comments.
If you have self-discipline and do your best, you’re going to succeed.
What are your priorities with your kids?
Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach