Emotions can be difficult for your ADHD child to control. But there are a few things you can do to help:
- Provide Structure: Provide as much structure as possible. That doesn’t mean you have them over-scheduled, just that there is a very predictable structure with every daily task: breakfast, getting dressed, dinner, homework, bedtime.
- Stay calm: If your child is acting out it’s important that you don’t get pulled into the chaos. Stay calm and don’t raise your voice. Allowing yourself to get upset just makes matters worse. After the scene is over, go into your bedroom and scream into a pillow if needed.
- Help them Self-Soothe: I worked with a child with ADHD who just couldn’t sit still to concentrate on his schoolwork. He was very bright, just couldn’t calm down. I asked him what he did to calm himself down and he looked at me all confused as didn’t have a clue how to do that. I tried several activities with him but the only thing that worked was swinging. So that’s how we did his schoolwork. We went to the playground and swung and worked. Turns out I can’t swing and read so ended up soooo nauseous. But, we got through tons of schoolwork that afternoon. I wonder if fidget spinners were created with kids with ADHD in mind. Their hands are spinning so their minds can focus on homework.
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Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach