Schools have a lot of control over bullying that occurs at school but what about when it happens at the park, the mall or online?
Parents, on the other hand, have control over what goes on everywhere, even school. Parents of bullies have to own up and be accountable. They have to understand that their child has low self-esteem and has no sense of accountability for how he/she affects others.
I guarantee if there are consequences for bullying it would almost cease to exist.
If being mean to others means no TV, video games, or cell phones could you imagine how quickly kids would learn to be nice?
I worked with bullies right in the classroom. I sat beside them mentoring them and was such a fixture in the schools that the kids forgot I was there so I saw what was really going on. Bullying isn’t about hurting others, it’s about making themselves feel better. All bullies have low self-esteem.
Whenever I’d ask a kid/teen why they were mean to someone, the reply would always be the same, “Huh?” As if they didn’t even realize they’d done something mean. It was all about them. They had zero empathy, compassion or even acknowledgement of what they put the victim through.
Yes it’s important to raise the bully’s self-esteem but that will happen naturally once he learns to stop being mean. The quickest way to do this is making him accountable by imposing consequences.
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Lisa Bunnage, Parenting Coach